“You are such a naughty child!”
“Sometimes I wonder whether you will ever learn anything!”
“Are you kidding me, you tipped it over again?!”
“What is wrong with you?!”
“You have ruined my day!”
“Why can’t you be like your brother/sister?”
“You make me so angry!”
Gosh, aren’t they nasty statements?
Well, I’ve thought of all of these, quite regularly in fact. The worst part is I’ve even said some of them to my children.
It’s really hard to not verbalise these thoughts sometimes. But I look upon it like this. I’m storing up treasures. These treasures are especially for my children. Each time I bite my tongue is a little victory. Yes, for me, but so much for them.
They may not know about your interior struggle but they will remember your words. 5, 10, 20, how ever many years down the track, they will remember your words and how you made them feel.
I know this. You know this.
Is it time for you to start storing some treasure too?
“Sometimes I wonder whether you will ever learn anything!”
“Are you kidding me, you tipped it over again?!”
“What is wrong with you?!”
“You have ruined my day!”
“Why can’t you be like your brother/sister?”
“You make me so angry!”
Gosh, aren’t they nasty statements?
Well, I’ve thought of all of these, quite regularly in fact. The worst part is I’ve even said some of them to my children.
It’s really hard to not verbalise these thoughts sometimes. But I look upon it like this. I’m storing up treasures. These treasures are especially for my children. Each time I bite my tongue is a little victory. Yes, for me, but so much for them.
They may not know about your interior struggle but they will remember your words. 5, 10, 20, how ever many years down the track, they will remember your words and how you made them feel.
I know this. You know this.
Is it time for you to start storing some treasure too?
Kelly,
Words appear so easily and wound so deeply. Some of them can stay with us forever. I remember a terrible day when my first child was about 2 or 3. I heard some of my words coming out of her mouth. I was horrified!
Thank you for the reminder to store up treasure for our kids.
Very true, Kelly. Unfortunately it seems to be easier to remember negative comments rather than positive ones for some reason.
Very very true. I beat myself up for what I have said after a long day where nothing seems to go right. But I do swallow my pride and make sure I apologise to my kids so they know that everyone makes mistakes